Self-love and softening are very closely related. Self-love allows us to be softer with ourselves and others. Softness allows us to observe ourselves with a more gentle, spacious and open heart. Both inform each other. When we look out at the world, we see examples all the time of people who lack self-love. Softness is not the order of the day, but rather something we have to consciously search for or make a point to notice.
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